Game and Leadership

 

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An interesting thought in relation to red pill awareness is it’s effects on other areas of a man’s life, besides women specifically. While a man’s interaction with women can take up a large portion of his thoughts, what’s interesting is how after taking the red pill, one’s interactions with people other than the woman he is interested in changes as well. In a healthy context, once the dust has settled and a man understands the specific demands he now has to embrace, a new way of approaching almost everything emerges. A new playground if you will on how you interact with other men, or how you interact with your nieces and nephews emerges. This is due to the re-alignment in hopefully your priorities, switching from a feminine defined reality, to one that is masculine. Embracement of this masculinity, not defined by the feminine imperative, is freeing and allows a milieu of experimentation to see what works best with your new found clarity.

While Game is usually defined in relation to women; a better strategy is to allow Game and the Red Pill to completely change your interactions with everyone. Swallowing the Red Pill and only memorizing scripts on how to interact with just women is not adequate enough for the long haul. A better implementation of Game is to adopt it completely to your own mental schema. Allowing the red pill to completely change your personality is the only way long-term change can be made. In essence, one has to remove as many elements of beta traits and replace them with alpha characteristics. With this system in mind, one can easily see how all your relationships become affected by your new mental schema. Fake it until you make it.

Men lead

Men have and will be leaders in some capacity of their lives. Just like game, whether one likes it or not, the game is being played. The same goes for leadership, one day your number will be called. If one is unsure of how game can improve your ability to lead, this should help clear things up.

The trope that some men are born natural leaders, is identical to the saying some men are born naturals with women, sports, ability, etc. I believe this to be true, some men are just naturally gifted in these areas, while others not so much. What I often wonder about is whether there is a pattern with men that are naturals to their ability to explicate alpha characteristics. Do natural leaders often show alpha characteristics? Can leadership be learned? Is there a link between game and leadership?

Go to any bookstore and there will be a large space devoted to leadership. Leadership qualities are traits to be admired, ones that most people sometimes struggle to acquire when thrust into a new role. The ability and the desire to attain it has always been acceptable to publicly chase for. It’s clear, since the leadership niche is a booming industry, that not everyone has that natural moxy. It’s socially acceptable for the unnatural leader to learn the skills to be a successful one.

Game does not have the same acceptability. Any time there is a hint that a man is not a naturally charismatic man and has learned game externally, that is immediately an affront to woman’s hypergamous instinct of choosing a man that “just gets it” naturally. As I’ve said multiple times, a woman has to believe that you naturally get it, or she will instinctively feel cheated. This isn’t to say to stop practicing game; a woman can never and will never understand that an experienced man, the man that she really wants, has failed time and time again. She doesn’t care to see how it’s put together, she only cares about the final product.

The similarity between game and leadership is that they both can be learned. In fact, if one were to completely change not only their interactions with women based on game, but men as well, one can be an effective leader.

The Red Pill allows men to view intergender dynamics through the lens of reality and not through the stain-glass windows of your previous blue pill idealizations. It’s a way of understanding that men and women are different in almost every way. Realizing that women will react to a man that displays certain characteristics allows the eventual realization that men follow other men that also act like a man. Both roles have been properly placed in a red pill context and now with practice game can show you how very different men from women truly are. No woman wants to follow a man that other men also don’t want to follow. Being able to relate to the men around you in a context that is simply between men is important for your ability to make friends and also, eventually, lead. No women can tell you how to be more of a man that other men can look up to. What they can teach you with game is being a man of status, charisma, and physically fit is a man worth fucking and a man that other men want to be.

Rejection and Leadership

In my post, Re-Thinking Rejection, I stated

Without failure, without rejection, there’s just not enough we can really know about our abilities or limits. Every time you get rejected is an opportunity to learn something from the interaction. What did you do wrong? What did you do right? Before you know it you’re starting to grow more confident in your actual experiences that includes rejection.

Leadership is a lot like facing rejection from a woman. You simply will make mistakes as a leader and you will let down those you’re supposed to lead. I’ve been a leader in some form even since I left home for college. Whether work or volunteering, I’ve been thrust into areas of leadership that included 4 to 5 subordinates at work, to a couple dozen when I was active in my old church. There have been numerous times when I made a mistake as a leader and the worst part is that I wasn’t the only one to pay for it. Sometimes it’s not as serious, maybe different tactics of conflict resolution need to be implemented. My patience for those that show incompetence needs to increase. What I have learned from my mistakes as a leader can be explained in another post. The point is, being a better leader is to start doing so and face whatever mistakes you make. Face them, then learn from them. The same is true with game, that you’re going to be rejected, but rejection is always better than regret.

Lack of Meaning and the Red Pill

There seems to be a common path most unplugged men go through as they start to accept that their blue pill beliefs were more liabilities than effective strategies in regards to women. As posted before in Designed Painthe steps of accepting the Red Pill are parallel to the 5 stages of grief when losing a loved one. The reality is the loss of this loved one is a loss in their idealizations that women are as they said they are. This idealization is powerful, so powerful in fact that men have committed suicide over the loss of their perceived “ONE.”

Once the dust has settled and men have accepted the Red Pill as true, I think there becomes another step after the 5 stages of grief. It sounds a lot like depression, but I don’t think it is as serious. This extra step is the search for meaning in a Red Pill context that is not in relation to blue pill ideals. The question is asked, Now that woman’s hypergamous instincts have been completely unbounded by any societal restraints, what is my next step as a man? Marriage? Spinning plates? MGTOW?

These are tough questions and much of a man’s psychological health is made up for them. The blue pill man that is ignorant but blissful about his future with women charges him to complete monumental tasks. He is positive that his meaning is complete as long as he can get the ONE at the end of the rainbow. Sadly, we all know the end of this story.

Once the truth has been laid bare, and he realizes that these idealizations will cost him much more than he bargained for, he’s now wondering what his next step is.

Enjoy the Decline?

A common trope in Red Pill circles is to just enjoy the decline now that their blinders have been taken off as to the nature of woman’s hypergamy is glaring them right in the face. There are good arguments for this as it’s painfully obvious that Western women have completely abandoned all things that they were designed for: marriage and motherhood. There has never been a time where the odds are so stacked against the man in a marriage that it’s now viewed as a complete loss in all areas of his life.

It’s so bad that enjoying the decline is now a popular sentiment. Sit back and just enjoy what’s left of the ride. “Fuck it, we’re on the Titanic, and I’d rather be sipping some whiskey than polishing the brass on it as we sink.”

This is where I hold a big contention with the Enjoy the Decline crowd. It’s simply giving up and lowering one’s self to their basic instincts. No judgment here, as their logic makes sense, and each will do what they feel is best. However, I’m not going to pretend that I believe that is the best path for any man. One of the most difficult aspects of the Red Pill is accepting your burden of performance as a man. Things will always be bad for you in some way.

We honestly do not know how deep this rot will grow, or where it will lead us to. What we do know is that lazily going through life by your basic instincts is what women do. Their genetic lottery allows them to do that. They can simply wait for a man to make his move. A man’s stake in this world is determined by his experiences, all of it lends itself to action in some way. Enjoying the Decline is simply abandoning one’s desire to live a life of experience and just saying “fuck it” when things get hard.

This is nihilism and one thing is clear, nihilism is psychological suicide.

Even further, there are holes in this thinking. The biggest, now that you know of woman’s hypergamous instincts, why does that determine your need to check out of society and say “Enjoy the Decline?” If one takes your conclusions to their furthest extent, that you’re now Red Pill, and in many aspects free, can you not see that you’re still determining your life’s meaning and purpose based on women? You’ve simply flipped it around from, “I will have meaning to get women,” to “there is no meaning because women can not meet my idealizations.” At the center of both of these arguments, women are still the crux of both of them, and further prove how your blue pill idealizations are damaging your potential even after you’ve taken the Red Pill.

What Comes After

I can’t sit here and tell you the meaning of your life. However, what is clear is one must find purpose outside of the idealizations of women. That does not mean succumbing to nihilism, becoming a vagrant PUA, and living solely for the orgasm. That life is a sacrifice of your potential as a man.  If there is one thing you will have to continually remind yourself, is that hope and meaning can be found in a Red Pill context. That hope and meaning are largely extended to your experiences as a man. People want to be associated with an experienced man, one that has been there and seen that. Has achieved something in his name. That path is yours for the taking and completely unwritten by anybody. One thing is clear, enjoying the decline will not get you there.

Aesthetics – The Male Physique

For any newly Red Pilled man, there is a plethora of information out there on what he should and shouldn’t do as he begins his journey. I believe most of it is pretty straight-forward and easy to follow: “Stop being a thirsty beta, stop being a fat piece of shit, start going to the gym, start talking to women and raising your SMV.”

On the surface, these are all true and each man needs to spend his time diving into the proper connotations each of these aspects of Red Pill thought entail. Some are more complex than others and require more thought on how each of these are implemented.

What I want to talk about is the ideal male physique in relation to the Red Pill. 

Going to the gym and lifting heavy objects is the first step in shedding off the blue pill. It’s the most tangible form of advice on the Red Pill. It requires almost no thought; it’s simply action. Take the first step by improving your life and get in shape. I love this part of the Red Pill. It’s one of the more easier aspects of it to implement and the benefits cross over into many areas of one’s life.

The Red Pill is a realist movement. No lies, no irresponsibility is acceptable. That’s the crux of it that each man is responsible for his fate, and no one owes you anything let alone an apology. If you’re overweight, the reality is you’re sickly, you’re limited in your ability to do certain things. You don’t command respect as you lack the discipline to maintain your weight and that it’s completely your fault. The lie would be for me to tell you that it’s ok to be overweight, that it’s not a problem, that you can make up for it with Game. While I agree that Game is the most important aspect of the Red Pill, looks do matter. Looks matter enough that a woman’s hindbrain will always size you up based on your looks before you even open your mouth. That’s the no bullshit reality. The reality is that women choose the ideal male physique, and not the other way around. While men, choose the ideal female physique. I should say that in the situation that we are in now, men are shamed and ridiculed for even suggesting that woman should have a specific physique. This is for another post. On the surface, each sex instinctively chooses the ideal physique for the other sex.

Getting to the specifics on the male physique, one may ask, what is the ideal male physique? That is a tricky question to answer. You’re faced with a couple of immediate roadblocks: including the relative nature of cultures, attainability, and the differences in each person’s body. It would be impossible to answer definitively without compromising on the reality of differences. However, we can get a broad and general guideline for those that live in the Feminine Imperative.

Aesthetics

Look around at most models, or any cover of a romance novel, or the Statue of David. The male physique is universally accepted in one that has low body fat, muscle definition, and the ideal V shape of the upper body. The upper chest, arms, and shoulders have a definition to them.  Not to mention one’s lats are thick and full, giving that important V-taper many strive for. Just as important, there is a size and definition to the posterior deltoids, that complete the image.

Brad Pitt in Troy is a good example of what is attainable with a strict diet and exercise program:

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This is a physique that will get you noticed, not because he’s massive because he’s not. Right here he probably weighs only 175 pounds. He has all of the above that were mentioned: low body fat, complete shoulder development, upper chest, biceps, and triceps, and if he turned around he would have great definition to his back.

There are guy’s at my local gym that are bigger than Brad Pitt here, but he looks big simply because of his low body fat. It’s an optical illusion that is mystifying but effective. The contours and definition of one’s muscles give it this ability to pop out at you. If one wants to know his entire workout regiment for this role, leave a comment, and I’ll include it.

I know I will get some hate for even hinting at a specific work-out regiment. Arguing about one’s diet and training is akin to arguing about religion, people are just too ego invested in considering something different until they’ve exhausted every other opportunity. I’m simply arguing for considering what physique you want to attain before you enter the gym. A classic aesthetic physique requires much more discipline not only with your diet but your regiment when it comes to muscles that are often overlooked.

However, I think it’s safe to say that most enter the gym with no pre-conceived notion of what physique they want. What happens is they get bro advice and do bro splits, combined with a shitty diet, and they end up with the Jersey Shore Bod:

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Nothing about the above is appealing, as 75% of most gym rats have that same specific physique. There is a definite muscle imbalance with the anterior deltoids are overly developed. If the Jersey Shore boys turned around you would see a complete lack of definition to their backs and lats because they don’t squat and spend their time doing heavy shoulder lifts. Their posterior deltoids would also be underdeveloped which can be alleviated with face-pulls. They also spend an inordinate amount of time doing bicep curls. I’m simply describing what every bro lifter does: hit the muscles that they can see in the gym and ignore the rest. What you’re going to end up with is a shitty jersey shore bod. Not cool.

Male Hamstering

One last comment before close:, above, I said looks matter in that they play a part in a woman’s ability to determine your SMV. They’re not the end-game for her decision, but they play an important part. What I want to address, however, is the idea that since our physiques are in some ways in our control, that we take it to such an extreme that looks become the complete arbiter of success when it comes to women, while ignoring other aspects of the Red Pill, like Game and status. The idea is this: “If I only looked like [blank] then I’ll start talking to women, or understanding the other elements of Game.” The reality is you will never look like [blank] and you should also focus on other important areas like Game and status.

Male hamstering is when any point of the three aspects of raising your SMV: Game, physique, status, is placed above one another. In reality, you’re losing valuable time by trying to chase this ideal when you can be accomplishing all three.

 

Churchianity

I was right in the middle of writing another blog post when I was thrown a curve ball about a Christian mommy blogger named Glennon Doyle Melton. Glennon writes for a blog called Momastery, which is your typical new-age, feminist, Eat Pray Love blog that masquerades as a Christian website to help “traumatized” married women. One of her posts has gone viral, titled, I Need To Tell You Something, where she informs her thousands of post-wall divorcees and married followers that she is divorcing her husband, Craig. She tells the story of breaking the news to Craig that she is through with their marriage; Craig as a beta man should, respects her decision with tears as an “act of love.” The next couple of paragraphs are Glennon hamstering away her decision to divorce her  husband and start a new life along with the Eat, Pray, Love crowd. None of the reasons are coherent, and include a lot of emotional and abstract thinking that have no place in reality. At the end of her confession is a nice reminder to buy her new book aptly called Love Warrior.

My post titled Christian Idols first dove into Christian marriage defined by the Feminine Imperative. It’s a reminder to men that “Christian” marriage is no insulation from divorce:

Yes, even Christian women are prone to going feral — it does not matter… understand that just because she’s a Christian woman does not mean she is not prone to hypergamy.

There are a number of points to take away from when looking at Glennon’s actions that show lessons for Christian men, secular men, or anyone in between. The most important is that AWALT (all women are like that) still holds true here, and a proper understanding of it will allow you to have the right expectations of women as they age regardless of cultural structures, I.E, religion. AWALT is not saying that all women will do said action, but rather that all women have the potential to optimize hypergamy. This instinct is the fulfilling of what is described in the post The Male Experience, that women will fulfill their sexual strategy of alpha fucks and beta bucks.

In Glennon’s case as a 40 year old woman she is right on schedule to re-ignite her alpha fucks phase. This happens as she realizes that being married to a dutiful beta husband, who “respects” her decision to leave him wasn’t all it was caked out to be.

It’s important to note that while Christian women are inclined to present a version of themselves as always being chaste, this is of course the opposite to the eventual detriment of their dutiful husbands, who believe that their time has finally come to find their “one true love.” They have been waiting for almost a decade to finally meet someone they believe is worth marrying, under the basis that all their hard work of being a dependable, caring man has finally paid off. The reality is of course much more pragmatic — if not cold. During her late 20s many women find themselves approaching The Wall, and are left scrambling to find a dependable source of security, as they switch from the alpha fucks strategy to a beta bucks one. At this stage in her life this is when most Christian women become “Christian.” There is no better place to find a bed of security than at your neighborhood church, where for the past decade in a man’s life feminized preachers have been demanding that he do his duty, man-up, and commit to these women that have finally seen the light. These men are more than happy to do their part, as they have been shamed and ridiculed as “kidults.” Interestingly, for all the churches bemoaning what a sad state of affairs masculinity is, there is no shortage of men willing to commit to these women. At any evangelical church in America today there will always be at least one month dedicated to sermons for men to “man-up” and meet these post-wall women in the middle.

Feminists Behind the Pulpit

It needs to be said that taking The Red Pill in regards to current socio-sexual dynamics at play in the United States and abroad, does not mean men have to adopt a certain religion or a certain political party. This belief stems from the idea that there are certain types of women, and that if you marry into that type that is perceived as a “quality” women then you will be insulated from their hypergamous insticts. That is where a lot of mistakes are made for men, as they relax their guard and fall asleep in a blissful-beta cocoon. Women who claim to be religious are just as hypergamous as any secular woman. There really is no difference, only in approach. As I have mentioned before in other posts, divorce rates and adultery are almost parallel in Christian circles as they are in secular ones. What needs to be taken away from this fact is regardless of upbringing, women will always follow the path of least-resistance if there is ample opportunity and reason to do so.

Unfortunately, the idea that men can find a “good” wife at a church is just unrealistic at this point. The church as mentioned above has been hijacked by feminist preachers that AMOG other men to follow their belief that it’s necessary to commit to these post-wall women into marriage. These same women who now realize their options are running out after their Alpha Fucks phase in their twenties have changed their tune. Since the majority of church goers are women, and since women will pay their salaries, these feminized preachers are happily ready to incorporate the Feminine Imperative into their sermons.

It doesn’t end there as the church will repeatedly instruct these newly married men to focus on building attraction by being a “good husband.” While at the same time the wife loses respect and interest in sex. Notice the pattern here? These same tropes of commitment to serve her sexual imperative are the same ones parroted by feminists in the media. Ultimately, it is bought in by beta-men who incorporate it as the way to live, only to find themselves divorced by their 40s.

The takeaway here is that most single-Christian men are pushing for an already made deal by hoping that they find a woman that is insulated from mainstream hypergamy. In reality is what they find is women who have gone through their Alpha Fucks stage and have decided to cash their chips in by masquerading as “born-again.” This combination means men finally feel their ship has pulled in and they can finally relax from the idea of women optimizing their hypergamy due to their religious convictions. Unfortunately, as we all know and have witnessed this is not the case in the slightest.

The Church is no insulation from runaway hypergamy. In many ways it’s actually worse.

You’re Not Crazy

I believe men are as powerful as they can be as long as they have the correct information to make good decisions. To expand, men are currently in a deficit with needed knowledge to successfully navigate important areas of their life, whether that is women, finances, or their career. These pillars represent areas that can make or break a man. Many here have made mistakes in the past and found themselves searching for answers. Why did she leave? Why is she not sleeping with me? Why is she constantly breaking my balls? We’re doers, thinkers, and problem solvers, and nothing is more frustrating to have questions that seem to have no rational answers to them.

Enter the Red Pill

The Red Pill has made an entrance just in time to give a semblance of answers. At the very least telling one of the dangers he faces as he navigates the Sexual Market Place. The dangers are there, and many have already fallen trap to being the nice guy, the beta provider, or the caring, supportive boyfriend — only for it all to fall apart. It happened. In fact I believe without the knowledge to avoid these traps, that one will continue to let them happen. The Red Pill gives you the proper knowledge to understand the behavioral aspects behind why women do what they do, and how realistic expectations on women can give you leverage on how to interact with them. Too often we hear or maybe personally experience someone’s life being fundamentally changed due to the decisions of their spouse. Too often is it heard, “It’s like I never even knew her.” Yes, you didn’t know then, but now you do. You now know women are pragmatic who follow their hypergamous instincts of Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

If one were to be honest with himself, and acknowledge that he doesn’t have all the answers, steps can be made to change his future. At the very least he can be more prepared for some of the land mines he will invariably come across. Further, if a man refuses to take responsibility for his life no one can say that he wasn’t warned.

Warnings

We all know what these warning are; we’ve seen ample evidence that these are potential land mines for the average man.

Marriage
In today’s social climate marriage is simply a bad proposition for men. While I’m all for marriage, there is inherently a lot of risk, with little reward. Shit tests invariably increase as you lose your biggest leverage: commitment. The opposite is inversely true for women; marriage is high reward and low risk. At the worst for her it doesn’t work out and she still walks away with child support, alimony, and half your shit, while you’re sleeping on a futon at your buddy’s apartment. Again, I’m pro-marriage, but only marriage that men absolutely understand the risks involved.
Dualistic Nature of Women
Women’s sexual strategy is dualistic in nature, depending on the different time of her life, her strategy revolves around Alpha and Beta abstractions. Most men here already know this, but to those that don’t, the goal is to eliminate Beta behavior, and increase Alpha behavior, or behavior that is indicative of being an Alpha. Under no circumstances should you fall into the trap of being a women’s Beta Bucks at 30, after she has spent the last 12 years on the cock carousel. No matter how many times you’re told to “man up” and commit, they are the same people rah rahing her desire to fuck as many chads as she can in her 20s. Again, your best interest’s are not the point here, it’s all about her sexual strategy, which you’re encouraged to support without any question.
I don’t think the Red Pill is here to determine what life style a man should have or want. Whether one wants to get married or not, that is his own prerogative. What it does offer is the acknowledgment of the social-sexual dynamic at it’s current state. At the very least, from collective experience, it’s apparent that these areas are potential tripping points and need to be acknowledged. There are plenty more to talk about, but that is for another post.

You’re Not Crazy

Let me close by acknowledging how the Red Pill can fundamentally alter your behavioral schema for the better, and what that means for the future. Before swallowing that bitter pill, I believe many men were subject to the whims of the Feminine Imperative, i.e., the assurance that women will be able to successfully satisfy their sexual strategy. This is of course at odds with men’s best interests, but for so many men, inoculated in a culture to ensure her needs over his, it takes a painful experience to wake a man up from this slumber. This is where the Red Pill can come in and show the behavioral schema he followed before: to play nice, to be supportive and caring, was inherently flawed in today’s social climate. What’s even more painful is the idea of how invested he was that doing these Beta things will work. After all, he was told by countless women, from his mom, sisters, friends, and even the movies he watched, all confirmed this is how he attained his needs, only for it to fall apart. Once this happens, this is enough to induce madness on any man.

I did everything she wanted… It wasn’t what she wanted.

I know this frustrating feeling very well. When I was 20, I met a young woman who I quickly grew emotionally attached to. I pulled out my blue pill rule book on how to win her over. It went OK for about 6 months before it started to fall apart. In my desperation I tried harder with my blue pill rule book, doing everything she said would work, only to be met by her revulsion. This was my wake up call. While the breakup sucked, what was more maddening was the thought it could happen again, and again. I couldn’t get one thought out of my head: What the fuck just happened? I felt like I was taking crazy pills as I did everything I was told would work by countless women, by countless plugged in men, by a whole culture sapped in the Feminine Imperative, only for it to blow up in my hands. Obviously there was something going on here that I just couldn’t figure out. I look back now and chuckle at my ignorance. I chuckle now at how I could even be so emotionally attached to another creature with flaws like anyone else. However, what was so maddening for many men, myself included, is the idea that things are not as they seem. That logic can only get you so far when you’re playing the Game while still plugged in. In reality, you’re playing the Game blindfolded, with both of you hands tied behind your back.

Some men are not laughing, as they get half their assets taken from them. Or forced to see their kids only once every two weeks, while their exes do everything in their power to make their kids resent them. They’re sitting in a one bedroom apartment thinking the same thing, What the fuck just happened? Then they stumble on some internet forums, and someone mentions the Red Pill. Intrigued, they do some searching, some digging, and the pieces start to come together. They deny it’s truth, they say, “Nah women are not like that.” They ignore, bargain, walk away, come back, get angry, and finally accept it’s true. Like an ice-cold drink on a hot summers day, it soothes their mind and they realize, I’m not crazy. Things are not as they seem, but I can adapt, I can thrive in this environment.

You’re not crazy, you just had wrong expectations of women. You believed that they inherently hold your best interests before her own. That she’s not pragmatic, and that she’s the true romantic. That what she says outweighs what she does. You’re not crazy, you were mired in a behavioral schema that wasn’t designed with your best interests in mind.

Yeah, you messed up, but I’d rather fail with at least a semblance on how to not fail again. At least give me the fucking courtesy to try and fix my shit. The alternative is being lost in the forest, unable to see the forest for the trees. Well, here you go, the tools and the knowledge are right here. It’s up to you on how much or how little you use them.

 

Irrational Self-Confidence

It’s much better to be irrationally self-confident then to be rationally unsure of your abilities.

I’ve seen it over and over again; the nice guy that tries his best, that repeatedly tries with good-intentions, but does so with a lack of confidence. He’s unsure of whether his particular idea or plan will pass. Many times his idea is a great idea; his plan will work, it’s well thought out. Then when he presents it, he does so with a lack of confidence. This lack translates to his idea that it’s not a good idea, that it’s not a good plan. It doesn’t matter what it is, whether you’re telling a girl where to eat, or telling your boss the latest update on your work. Giving any idea, any plan, and doing so with a lack of confidence has a greater negative effect then on the perceived positive of the idea.

People are outright punished for being unsure of themselves. You’re liked less and trusted less. It’s a sad state of affairs, but the sooner you realize that any hint of insecurity is viewed as worse then the desire to avoid being wrong.

Embrace a sense of irrational self-confidence.

Being over-confident in your abilities is a better path to selling your ideas then being unsure of their success. What you’re trying to sell is your idea, and as long as you’re a sane human being, it’s probably an idea worth selling. Doing so in a confident way tells another person that the idea is worth looking into, otherwise you wouldn’t feel so strongly about it. Stride through the world without apologies and without hesitation. Every thing you do, do so with a purpose. Yes, you’ll fuck up, but again, it’s 30 lashes for being insecure and 10 for being wrong.

 

Christian Idols

The goal of this blog is not to re-frame Red Pill truths into a different worldview, whether that is political or religious. The Red Pill is amoral, in that it simply unveils the “mysterious” nature of women’s sexual strategy. It’s neither claiming that these strategies are good nor bad, it’s simply acknowledging how women intrinsically are, and how with this new knowledge men can have realistic expectations on women. Re-framing Red Pill truths into a ideology is a disservice to all men that can benefit from it. For example, if I said you can’t be Red Pill without being a staunch fiscal conservative, or you can’t be a Red Pill without agreeing that we as a country should vote a certain way, that is simply not true. Red Pill truths are self-evident, the same way basic mathematical laws work, if you add up all of the angles in a triangle the sum must equal 180°, or 2+2=4. Whether you’re in another country, or back in time, a woman’s sexual strategy is constant.

With that said, the way one uses and applies Red Pill truths ultimately determines ethical implications. Which brings me to gaze at Red Pillers that identify as Christian. I believe that Christian men can gain a lot from taking the Red Pill, in that it uncovers some deeply held idols (ideals) that many Christian men still hold on to, to their own detriment. I want to speak to Christian men here that are still on the fence on whether women, even Christian women, are really naturally the way we describe them.

The manosphere has a large swath of men that identify as being Christian. I believe the manosphere’s popularity with Christian men is that both Christianity and the mainstream manosphere advice seeks, in a semi-parallel way, self improvement. For a Christian man, to be more Christ-like is the overarching goal, and for the manosphere it strives for men to “man-up.” However, the problem with the mainstream manosphere (I’m thinking of the Art of Manliness, and other like-minded feel good man-blogs) is that it still caters to the Feminine Imperative. Even the AoM acknowledges that a very substantial base of it’s readers are females. It’s geared toward men, but it has the stamp of approval from women. It simply creates a culture where men are even more encouraged to disregard their sexual strategy in favor of women’s by “manning-up.” What Christian men need to realize is that “manning-up” as dictated by these mainstream blogs that has the FI seal of approval is not inherently “Christian.” It’s simply a repackaging of the last 50 years of feminism demanding the men “man-up” to meet her sexual strategy. In other words: Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

AWALT

What baffles me now is how ready Christian men are so ready to settle down due to the pressure for men to “man-up.” Every where in a church you see young men, pining for marriage in the hopes that it will somehow complete them. This is the idol that will ultimately set them up for either divorce or soul-crushing expectations. I’m not going to get into a theological discussion about Christian marriage, but I need you to realize that even Christian women are influenced by Game and it’s requirements. Even in tight Christian circles women are still prone to the basic Red Pill laws of hypergamy and the Sexual Market Place. On two different occasions I witnessed two different friends of mine find out that their pure Christian wife, the worship singer, the SAHM of 3 kids, was having an affair with the hot guitarist on the worship team. One of those husbands was deployed on an aircraft carrier at the time. The guy she cheated on him with? That was his best-friend, who also got her pregnant. The husband got a e-mail from his wife four thousand miles away in the middle of the ocean that she was divorcing him, and going to start a new family in another state with his best-friend.

Yes, even Christian women are prone to going feral — it does not matter. It’s indicative that Christian marriages have about the same success rate as secular marriages. So what can you do? Christian men need to take the Red Pill and apply these truths to their marriage. You need to understand that just because she’s a Christian woman does not mean she is not prone to hypergamy. This does not mean you can drift asleep in a cocoon of Blue Pill bliss once you’re married. The Red Pill is an idolatry destroyer of the worst idols that Christian men hold on to. This idol is that marriage will ultimately be your gateway to happiness or peace. If Christian men want to take their marriages seriously, and have a chance of having a successful marriage, then they need to disabuse themselves from the idealisms of “Christian” marriage. This Christian marriage which has been now defined that you adhere to her sexual strategy is not inherently Christian. It is surely not as defined in Ephesians 5:23, “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”