Lack of Meaning and the Red Pill

There seems to be a common path most unplugged men go through as they start to accept that their blue pill beliefs were more liabilities than effective strategies in regards to women. As posted before in Designed Painthe steps of accepting the Red Pill are parallel to the 5 stages of grief when losing a loved one. The reality is the loss of this loved one is a loss in their idealizations that women are as they said they are. This idealization is powerful, so powerful in fact that men have committed suicide over the loss of their perceived “ONE.”

Once the dust has settled and men have accepted the Red Pill as true, I think there becomes another step after the 5 stages of grief. It sounds a lot like depression, but I don’t think it is as serious. This extra step is the search for meaning in a Red Pill context that is not in relation to blue pill ideals. The question is asked, Now that woman’s hypergamous instincts have been completely unbounded by any societal restraints, what is my next step as a man? Marriage? Spinning plates? MGTOW?

These are tough questions and much of a man’s psychological health is made up for them. The blue pill man that is ignorant but blissful about his future with women charges him to complete monumental tasks. He is positive that his meaning is complete as long as he can get the ONE at the end of the rainbow. Sadly, we all know the end of this story.

Once the truth has been laid bare, and he realizes that these idealizations will cost him much more than he bargained for, he’s now wondering what his next step is.

Enjoy the Decline?

A common trope in Red Pill circles is to just enjoy the decline now that their blinders have been taken off as to the nature of woman’s hypergamy is glaring them right in the face. There are good arguments for this as it’s painfully obvious that Western women have completely abandoned all things that they were designed for: marriage and motherhood. There has never been a time where the odds are so stacked against the man in a marriage that it’s now viewed as a complete loss in all areas of his life.

It’s so bad that enjoying the decline is now a popular sentiment. Sit back and just enjoy what’s left of the ride. “Fuck it, we’re on the Titanic, and I’d rather be sipping some whiskey than polishing the brass on it as we sink.”

This is where I hold a big contention with the Enjoy the Decline crowd. It’s simply giving up and lowering one’s self to their basic instincts. No judgment here, as their logic makes sense, and each will do what they feel is best. However, I’m not going to pretend that I believe that is the best path for any man. One of the most difficult aspects of the Red Pill is accepting your burden of performance as a man. Things will always be bad for you in some way.

We honestly do not know how deep this rot will grow, or where it will lead us to. What we do know is that lazily going through life by your basic instincts is what women do. Their genetic lottery allows them to do that. They can simply wait for a man to make his move. A man’s stake in this world is determined by his experiences, all of it lends itself to action in some way. Enjoying the Decline is simply abandoning one’s desire to live a life of experience and just saying “fuck it” when things get hard.

This is nihilism and one thing is clear, nihilism is psychological suicide.

Even further, there are holes in this thinking. The biggest, now that you know of woman’s hypergamous instincts, why does that determine your need to check out of society and say “Enjoy the Decline?” If one takes your conclusions to their furthest extent, that you’re now Red Pill, and in many aspects free, can you not see that you’re still determining your life’s meaning and purpose based on women? You’ve simply flipped it around from, “I will have meaning to get women,” to “there is no meaning because women can not meet my idealizations.” At the center of both of these arguments, women are still the crux of both of them, and further prove how your blue pill idealizations are damaging your potential even after you’ve taken the Red Pill.

What Comes After

I can’t sit here and tell you the meaning of your life. However, what is clear is one must find purpose outside of the idealizations of women. That does not mean succumbing to nihilism, becoming a vagrant PUA, and living solely for the orgasm. That life is a sacrifice of your potential as a man.  If there is one thing you will have to continually remind yourself, is that hope and meaning can be found in a Red Pill context. That hope and meaning are largely extended to your experiences as a man. People want to be associated with an experienced man, one that has been there and seen that. Has achieved something in his name. That path is yours for the taking and completely unwritten by anybody. One thing is clear, enjoying the decline will not get you there.

Aesthetics – The Male Physique

For any newly Red Pilled man, there is a plethora of information out there on what he should and shouldn’t do as he begins his journey. I believe most of it is pretty straight-forward and easy to follow: “Stop being a thirsty beta, stop being a fat piece of shit, start going to the gym, start talking to women and raising your SMV.”

On the surface, these are all true and each man needs to spend his time diving into the proper connotations each of these aspects of Red Pill thought entail. Some are more complex than others and require more thought on how each of these are implemented.

What I want to talk about is the ideal male physique in relation to the Red Pill. 

Going to the gym and lifting heavy objects is the first step in shedding off the blue pill. It’s the most tangible form of advice on the Red Pill. It requires almost no thought; it’s simply action. Take the first step by improving your life and get in shape. I love this part of the Red Pill. It’s one of the more easier aspects of it to implement and the benefits cross over into many areas of one’s life.

The Red Pill is a realist movement. No lies, no irresponsibility is acceptable. That’s the crux of it that each man is responsible for his fate, and no one owes you anything let alone an apology. If you’re overweight, the reality is you’re sickly, you’re limited in your ability to do certain things. You don’t command respect as you lack the discipline to maintain your weight and that it’s completely your fault. The lie would be for me to tell you that it’s ok to be overweight, that it’s not a problem, that you can make up for it with Game. While I agree that Game is the most important aspect of the Red Pill, looks do matter. Looks matter enough that a woman’s hindbrain will always size you up based on your looks before you even open your mouth. That’s the no bullshit reality. The reality is that women choose the ideal male physique, and not the other way around. While men, choose the ideal female physique. I should say that in the situation that we are in now, men are shamed and ridiculed for even suggesting that woman should have a specific physique. This is for another post. On the surface, each sex instinctively chooses the ideal physique for the other sex.

Getting to the specifics on the male physique, one may ask, what is the ideal male physique? That is a tricky question to answer. You’re faced with a couple of immediate roadblocks: including the relative nature of cultures, attainability, and the differences in each person’s body. It would be impossible to answer definitively without compromising on the reality of differences. However, we can get a broad and general guideline for those that live in the Feminine Imperative.


Look around at most models, or any cover of a romance novel, or the Statue of David. The male physique is universally accepted in one that has low body fat, muscle definition, and the ideal V shape of the upper body. The upper chest, arms, and shoulders have a definition to them.  Not to mention one’s lats are thick and full, giving that important V-taper many strive for. Just as important, there is a size and definition to the posterior deltoids, that complete the image.

Brad Pitt in Troy is a good example of what is attainable with a strict diet and exercise program:


This is a physique that will get you noticed, not because he’s massive because he’s not. Right here he probably weighs only 175 pounds. He has all of the above that were mentioned: low body fat, complete shoulder development, upper chest, biceps, and triceps, and if he turned around he would have great definition to his back.

There are guy’s at my local gym that are bigger than Brad Pitt here, but he looks big simply because of his low body fat. It’s an optical illusion that is mystifying but effective. The contours and definition of one’s muscles give it this ability to pop out at you. If one wants to know his entire workout regiment for this role, leave a comment, and I’ll include it.

I know I will get some hate for even hinting at a specific work-out regiment. Arguing about one’s diet and training is akin to arguing about religion, people are just too ego invested in considering something different until they’ve exhausted every other opportunity. I’m simply arguing for considering what physique you want to attain before you enter the gym. A classic aesthetic physique requires much more discipline not only with your diet but your regiment when it comes to muscles that are often overlooked.

However, I think it’s safe to say that most enter the gym with no pre-conceived notion of what physique they want. What happens is they get bro advice and do bro splits, combined with a shitty diet, and they end up with the Jersey Shore Bod:


Nothing about the above is appealing, as 75% of most gym rats have that same specific physique. There is a definite muscle imbalance with the anterior deltoids are overly developed. If the Jersey Shore boys turned around you would see a complete lack of definition to their backs and lats because they don’t squat and spend their time doing heavy shoulder lifts. Their posterior deltoids would also be underdeveloped which can be alleviated with face-pulls. They also spend an inordinate amount of time doing bicep curls. I’m simply describing what every bro lifter does: hit the muscles that they can see in the gym and ignore the rest. What you’re going to end up with is a shitty jersey shore bod. Not cool.

Male Hamstering

One last comment before close:, above, I said looks matter in that they play a part in a woman’s ability to determine your SMV. They’re not the end-game for her decision, but they play an important part. What I want to address, however, is the idea that since our physiques are in some ways in our control, that we take it to such an extreme that looks become the complete arbiter of success when it comes to women, while ignoring other aspects of the Red Pill, like Game and status. The idea is this: “If I only looked like [blank] then I’ll start talking to women, or understanding the other elements of Game.” The reality is you will never look like [blank] and you should also focus on other important areas like Game and status.

Male hamstering is when any point of the three aspects of raising your SMV: Game, physique, status, is placed above one another. In reality, you’re losing valuable time by trying to chase this ideal when you can be accomplishing all three.