The Male Experience

The reason that women are both frightened and fascinated by the growth of the Red Pill is it’s threat to reveal the largely female dominant sexual strategy. The Red Pill is an evolutionary reaction on a meta-scale against a female dominant sexual strategy, fueled by feminist thought from the past 50 years.

A dominant sexual strategy is one that is agreed upon, subconsciously, by the general populace, on how the human species should reproduce.

It’s proof of the Red Pill’s unifying appeal, when men of different backgrounds, locations, status, and experiences, can come together on the internet to discuss their findings as to how they have attracted a particular woman. As these individual stories begin to accumulate, patterns emerge which form behavioral strategies. These commonalities and collective experiences, allow a consensus to be agreed upon in regards to the current state of intersexual dynamics. From this agreement, the Red Pill is born.

As of 2016, in Western society the female sexual strategy is dominant, and can be described in both short-term sexual strategy, and long-term sexual strategy, i.e: Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks. One thing to keep in mind, and I’ll quote Rollo Tomassi here:

The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategies:
For one gender’s sexual strategy to succeed the other gender must compromise or abandon their own.

Alpha Fucks

Women inherently have pluralistic strategy in regards to mating. This strategy can be simplified to short-term, and long-term capacities. The short-term strategy is often expressed as Alpha Fucks, which pushes her to seek the highest quality male to gain the best genes for her children. Displays of Alpha characteristics in a man will set off arousal cues and is indicative of traits of social dominance, aggression, power, physicality, and other traits that are sexually arousing to women. It should be noted, that the term Alpha is a contentious one in The Red Pill, as there is no definitive definition as to what is an Alpha. Alpha is an abstract term, that changes according to the perceptions of each individual man.

Beta Bucks

The long-term strategy that women employ is called Beta Bucks. This strategy encourages her to seek out a partner that has an abundance of resources that she can use to provide for herself and her children. Personality traits of a Beta are indicative of validation seeking, one that supports her and her children both financially and emotionally. Beta partners have traits that are attractive to her, and should not be confused by sexually arousing, which explains Alpha traits.

The Male Experience

Each individual man will invariably have to navigate the Sexual Market Place. Some will find themselves gifted with a natural ability to successfully navigate this brutally competitive arena. Most will fall, bleed, doubt, suffer, and other-wise have to wrestle with exactly how they should successfully employ Game to attain their needs. At this present moment, the odds are stacked against most men who are raised inoculated to the Feminine Imperative. This same imperative that aggressively demands that men should abandon their strategy, to fulfill a woman’s sexual strategy, and be thankful while they’re at it. Anything less is outright misogyny. Anything acknowledging that the odds are not in a man’s favor, is a threat that needs to be squashed.

Before acknowledgment of a woman’s dualistic strategy is reached, men will have to come to terms either through pain or severe loss, as their own strategy that was approved by the Feminine Imperative crumbles in their hands. Why I’m so interested in writing this blog, is so men can have a second chance at seeing how their Blue Pill expectations on women really set them up for painful failure. Their story is like so many others: raised to serve the women around them by sacrificing their hopes and dreams in the hope that she will appreciate them. Only to be met by nothing more then her outright disdain.

At specific points in a woman’s lifetime, she is expecting different men that entail either Alpha or Beta traits. At 21, a woman’s sexual strategy is different then when she is at 31. At these different stages of a woman’s life, she will require a man that holds certain key traits to meet her sexual strategy of Alpha Fucks or Beta Bucks. What has been so damaging to relational equilibrium between the sexes is a now cultural desire to ensure that women’s sexual strategy is dominant. This assurance that women should have the dominant strategy is called Optimized Hypergamy, which materializes from individual women optimizing their hypergamy, which then extrapolates across communities to enforce laws and social norms to ensure that her sexual strategy is dominant. This can play out familiarly in a man’s life when at 18 you were so inclined to move to another state to goto the same college as your girlfriend. Only to have her dump you as she realizes she is entering a phase in her life where can use her most physically desirable years to seek an Alpha Fucks strategy. Years later at 30, this same women will notice as she ages that that Alpha Fucks strategy was a liability for her, as she seeks a man that will provide commitment to her. If her boyfriend balks at the idea of marriage he will be met with allegations of “commitment-phobic” and to “man-up” and do the right thing. Same woman, different key traits of men at different points in life, one dominant sexual strategy.

In the past, men either through social norms, religion, or laws limited a woman’s hypergamous tendencies. With the advent of the sexual revolution, and now entering 3rd wave feminism, most if not all these natural bulwarks against women optimizing hypergamy (and thus bringing more relational equilibrium) have all but been discarded.

The fallout is a sense of confusion and a desire for a correction. This is the Male Experience, as men are forced to reconcile that the same strategy of being Mr. Perfect has utterly failed them. While also acknowledging marriage in the 21st century is a risky proposition due to a cultural of unfettered hypergamy. This Experience accumulates in the Red Pill, which seeks to allow men to gain awareness of what women say they want, and what they actually want are two different things. It seeks to take off the veil of the “mysterious” nature of women, and acknowledge painful truths of how women love. Acknowledgment of these core truths will ultimately help men navigate the arena, and to reach a level of sanity as they struggle to wrestle with these uncomfortable truths.

Christian Idols

The goal of this blog is not to re-frame Red Pill truths into a different worldview, whether that is political or religious. The Red Pill is amoral, in that it simply unveils the “mysterious” nature of women’s sexual strategy. It’s neither claiming that these strategies are good nor bad, it’s simply acknowledging how women intrinsically are, and how with this new knowledge men can have realistic expectations on women. Re-framing Red Pill truths into a ideology is a disservice to all men that can benefit from it. For example, if I said you can’t be Red Pill without being a staunch fiscal conservative, or you can’t be a Red Pill without agreeing that we as a country should vote a certain way, that is simply not true. Red Pill truths are self-evident, the same way basic mathematical laws work, if you add up all of the angles in a triangle the sum must equal 180°, or 2+2=4. Whether you’re in another country, or back in time, a woman’s sexual strategy is constant.

With that said, the way one uses and applies Red Pill truths ultimately determines ethical implications. Which brings me to gaze at Red Pillers that identify as Christian. I believe that Christian men can gain a lot from taking the Red Pill, in that it uncovers some deeply held idols (ideals) that many Christian men still hold on to, to their own detriment. I want to speak to Christian men here that are still on the fence on whether women, even Christian women, are really naturally the way we describe them.

The manosphere has a large swath of men that identify as being Christian. I believe the manosphere’s popularity with Christian men is that both Christianity and the mainstream manosphere advice seeks, in a semi-parallel way, self improvement. For a Christian man, to be more Christ-like is the overarching goal, and for the manosphere it strives for men to “man-up.” However, the problem with the mainstream manosphere (I’m thinking of the Art of Manliness, and other like-minded feel good man-blogs) is that it still caters to the Feminine Imperative. Even the AoM acknowledges that a very substantial base of it’s readers are females. It’s geared toward men, but it has the stamp of approval from women. It simply creates a culture where men are even more encouraged to disregard their sexual strategy in favor of women’s by “manning-up.” What Christian men need to realize is that “manning-up” as dictated by these mainstream blogs that has the FI seal of approval is not inherently “Christian.” It’s simply a repackaging of the last 50 years of feminism demanding the men “man-up” to meet her sexual strategy. In other words: Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks.

AWALT

What baffles me now is how ready Christian men are so ready to settle down due to the pressure for men to “man-up.” Every where in a church you see young men, pining for marriage in the hopes that it will somehow complete them. This is the idol that will ultimately set them up for either divorce or soul-crushing expectations. I’m not going to get into a theological discussion about Christian marriage, but I need you to realize that even Christian women are influenced by Game and it’s requirements. Even in tight Christian circles women are still prone to the basic Red Pill laws of hypergamy and the Sexual Market Place. On two different occasions I witnessed two different friends of mine find out that their pure Christian wife, the worship singer, the SAHM of 3 kids, was having an affair with the hot guitarist on the worship team. One of those husbands was deployed on an aircraft carrier at the time. The guy she cheated on him with? That was his best-friend, who also got her pregnant. The husband got a e-mail from his wife four thousand miles away in the middle of the ocean that she was divorcing him, and going to start a new family in another state with his best-friend.

Yes, even Christian women are prone to going feral — it does not matter. It’s indicative that Christian marriages have about the same success rate as secular marriages. So what can you do? Christian men need to take the Red Pill and apply these truths to their marriage. You need to understand that just because she’s a Christian woman does not mean she is not prone to hypergamy. This does not mean you can drift asleep in a cocoon of Blue Pill bliss once you’re married. The Red Pill is an idolatry destroyer of the worst idols that Christian men hold on to. This idol is that marriage will ultimately be your gateway to happiness or peace. If Christian men want to take their marriages seriously, and have a chance of having a successful marriage, then they need to disabuse themselves from the idealisms of “Christian” marriage. This Christian marriage which has been now defined that you adhere to her sexual strategy is not inherently Christian. It is surely not as defined in Ephesians 5:23, “For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.”